Distracting Trumpet

I can remember as a little kid watching episodes of Monty Python's Flying Circus and laughing hysterically at the pure silliness of the skits. Those were deep and hearty laughs that were overwhelmingly fun. I loved it.

I haven't laughed that hard, well, since the early seventies...

That is, until now.

I was watching Seth MacFarlane's Family Guy the other night.

It was a repeat. They had a bit called "Distracting Trumpet".

Its a kind of parody of wise-guy-mafia movies.

I'm not sure if its the real Paul Sorvino's voice in it--if it isn't then Seth is a genius of hitting the mark in imitating him.

Anyways, a bunch a "connected" guys are sitting around the clubhouse, planning and strategizing their underworld moves. The setting is typical, the men are wearing designer suits, there is low lighting, and the stereotypical trumpet soundtrack is playing in the background.

Then, well, lets just say it turns absurd and Chuck Mangione's Feels So Good comes into play.

Check it out:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qaPzqs17xBQ

Its ridiculous.

But I laugh so hard I actually start to cry.

Yes. Seth is a genius.

Doing Business With People You Like and Trust

Warren Buffet has been known to say that he only does business with people he likes, respects and trusts.

As a matter of fact, if he has high trust with an individual, he will pen and accept a deal recommended by that person worth millions without being overly concerned about the paperwork and due diligence He still does that of course. I mean, he is after all a great investor and business man.

Here's the thing.

That makes sense.

When I work and collaborate with people I trust and respect, the work seems effortless. We get a great deal of work done. It's easy and fun.

Consider the opposite.

With low trust, and a lack of respect, my energy is consumed in other things instead of the work. Will this individual show up? Will they sabotage our efforts? How long do I have to endure their company? etc...

I have said it again and again. I would rather work with someone who has average capabilities, and is completely trustworthy, committed and reliable rather than with a superstar who is hit and miss when it comes to their being counted on.

As the saying goes: "A cohesive group of team minded players will usually beat a collection of individual prima donna superstars".

A great team has trust, likeability, and committment. Very Important. Very True.

That Airline Attendant That Went Nuts...

I wasn't quite sure what my reaction was when I heard of Airline Steward Mr. Steven Slater's alleged meltdown.

Apparently, he quit in the most dramatic fashion possible too. It was reported that with two beers in his hands, he slid down the emergency exit slide while the plane was parked on the runway landing. This of course happened after he apparently told those who were upsetting him to go F Bomb themselves.

I wasn't there when it happened.

But I will say this. Obviously, Mr. Slater hit his boiling point and snapped.

He has become somewhat of an online hero. I can empathise. Dude was having a bad day-- and he succumbed.

And now, from that sheer act of completely unedited emotion, he is slated to get his own reality show. The premise? Guiding people how to quit their job in a memorable way.

Wow.

I have come to believe that if you ain't doing what you love to do in your career, the day will come when you will pull a Slater at your workplace. I'm not saying its right or that its wrong.

It's inevitable.

Sincere Kindness Rules Supreme

Yeah. Ok.

But it really does.

I'm not talking about the "people-pleasing-door-mat-style" of being nice. Not at all.

I'm talking about a sincere and honest effort towards being decent, courteous, and kind--With everyone!

Lately I have found that an interaction with anybody can be a pleasant experience if my approach is from a standpoint that is empathetic, friendly and honest.

It's like a mirror. It reflects back.

This is all new to me. Or more accurately, I have just started to appreciate this powerful truth.

If I am in a grumpy mood and feel low patience for anything, I come into contact with a lotta grumpy impatient people.

When I'm feeling grateful, happy and appreciative, I tend to meet a lotta pleasant and wonderful folks.

Pretty cool.

My "macho-wanna-be" side dismisses this experience as nonsense. I don't know why that is.

But I do know this: Kindness begats kindness.

Give it a try.

Lights Out James Toney vs Randy The Natural Couture

Wow! This is gonna be interesting. It's a cliched description but it fits perfectly: "Its the classic matchup of striker vs grappler!"

What's gonna happen?

Well, one of two things. Couture will either submit the world class boxer, or Toney will knock out the world class grappler.

It will take place at UFC 118 on August 28 in Boston.

Neither man is intimidated.

The whole Boxing vs MMA debate has grown old. My hunch is that this bout promises to keep it alive and well.

Nonetheless, I find this an intriguiging matchup.

Its MMA, and anything can happen.

Remember when an aging Ray Mercer knocked out former UFC Champion Tim The Maniac Silva? It only took one punch. He did it in under a minute. Tim Silvia is no longer the marquee star he once was because of that defeat.

Anything can happen indeed.

Frankly, I'm a huge fan of both fighters.

And, I will be watching.

Millionaire Matchmaker. Not What I Expected. She's Really Good!

Ok.

Before you buy me a skirt and insult my manhood, wait a second. Just hear me out...

Were it not for my beautiful wife (who by the way absolutely just loves this show!), I would have never heard of or even watched one second of this concept. Bah. Humbug.

Rather than being the self centered remote control hog that my track record would suggest, and bullying my way into us having another forced feeding of Spike TV, I decided one night that I would be the thoughtful husband and watch "her" show with her-- Millionaire Matchmaker. Ugh.

Zero expectations. Infinite surprises.

You know what? I hate to admit it. I loved it! Patti Stanger the host, producer, star and business owner of Millionaire Matchmaker is amazing! A bona fide straight shooter, an expert in what she does, and a no holds barred savvy business person. She can read a person in milliseconds with amazing accuracy. This is truly engaging. No pun intended.

What she does is provide a professional matchmaking service for lonely and single millionaires.

And she does it in a very no B.S. high profile sorta way.

When you watch someone do something at which they are a masterful expert , whether it be an artist, a singer, an athelete, or in this case a matchmaker, it is captivating.

Much respect for Patti and her methodology.

There's only one thing that strikes me as odd. Why is it that so many millionaires on the show, who are lonely and single, have demonstrated the ability to become self made financial successes-- and yet they haven't acquired the social ability to able to meet someone to whom they can make a lifelong commitment to? They actually come across as odd, offputting or self indulgent narcissistic goofs.

That's the disconnect. Patti sees right through that and addresses it swiftly and without mercy. And she delivers on her promises

Watch for Patti's star to continue to rise.

She's Really Good.

UFC 116 Prediction

Fans of MMA are in for a real treat this Saturday July 3rd.

UFC 116 pits Brock Lesnar against Shane Carwin.

Man oh man- this one is really too close to call.

Both are gigantic men (they both have to cut weight to make the 265 lb weight!) and both are in possession of extensive and well decorated wrestling backgrounds...

Brock Lesnar is simply unreal- his athlectism is phenomenal for a man his size. During the days when he ruled supreme in the WWE, he could do a back flip off of the top rope and land on his opponent like a life long gymnast. His speed is more commonly found in lightweights, and he is a quick learner. Don't forget that he has had only a handful of MMA fights, and he is now world champion. That speaks volumes.

Shane Carwin is comparable in his wrestling abilities, and even more so, his boxing and punching power is superhuman. He is undeafeated with knockouts all happening in the first round. If he connects, you go to sleep. What makes this interesting is that Brock's chin has never been tested--until now.

In terms of personalities, they are the exact opposite of each other.

Brock is brash, loud, aggressive and bullyish outside the octagon. It is with good reason too, he can back it up.

Shane is a gentleman, respectful, soft spoken, and ...um... civilized. He only turns into the machine beast creature inside the octagon.

What a beautiful matchup.

My prediction? Wow. Too close to call.

If Shane can resist and prevent the takedown, he will prevail.

If Brock can get it to the ground, Shane will have a short and disappointing night.

I'm gonna go out on a limb and predict that Shane will win, by knockout in round 2.

But then again, it is mixed martial arts.

Anything can happen.

The Importance Of Believing In Yourself

It is sometimes viewed as a cliche but it is a very valuable thing to pay attention to:

Belief in yourself will carry you through setbacks, failures and disappointment.

I had the good fortune to interview Joe Sugarman in Toronto recently. He is the mastermind behind the worldwide succesful phenomenom of Blu Blockers- the popular sunglasses product.

His story is an inspiring one and I recommend you google his name to find countless stories and information about him. Check out the interview:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rx8mjjwk0hY

He stresses the importance of belief in yourself.

Pretty Cool

5 Ways To Gain Courage In Front Of An Audience

I use these five ways to gain confidence and courage whenever I have to speak before a large crowd or audience.


It really works.


If you are like me, you may have a tendency to get nervous before addressing a large crowd.


Don't ever lose heart. That's normal. I think that fear of speaking in front of an audience stems from the worry of looking bad, or perhaps the dread of making a mistake. It is really no big deal.


Here are 5 tools I use to cure that.



1. Breathe.



Breathe calmly and deliberately deep. When I am nervous or fearful, my breathing may quicken or get shallow. Sometimes that can get me lightheaded. That doesn't help. Breathing properly sends a physiological message of calmness that translates into psychological calmness.



2. Smile.



This helps me to establish a friendly vibe and it takes a bit of the edge off. Plus, I find it ridiculously impossible to be nervous with a sincere smile on my face.

3. Think of someone you love.

By doing this, I tap into resources of great courage and inspiration. It is magical and it is real. Try it. Being nervous or fearful seems a million miles away when I do this.

4. Deliver the message with sincerity and honesty.

Yup. People can sense B.S. instantly --And that can usually can make for a tough crowd. If I just stick to the facts, and convey my message from the heart, it has a calming effect on me. I connect with the audience in a real way. Things go smoother.

5. Remember that NOBODY is perfect.

I don't have to be perfect either. This is a paradox-- When I try to be perfect I end up making more mistakes and I get more nervous. When I accept the possibility that I will screw up in front of an audience, I oddly make less mistakes, and gain more confidence.

Don't Answer The Phone.

What?

Yeah. That's right.

Don't answer the phone.

I saw a really cool vlog on godaddy.com. It claimed that highly successful folks don't answer the phone.

Why?

Well, often times, someone is trying to sell me something, or they want something from me, or they are promoting something that may not be in line with what's important to me.

What should I do?

Simple.

Let them leave a message and then screen the calls.

If its important to me, I will return the call.

Sounds selfish. 'Cause it is.

But it works.

The time that is freed up with this approach can be better spent with my family, my business, and the things that really matter to me.

Very practical advice.

Needless to say, if it is my wife that is calling, I answer the phone. You bet.


I know what's good for me. Hahaha...

Bernie

I have had many influences in my life.

Some have been good and some have been not so good.

Every now and then I think of my friend Bernie. He passed on many years ago --but his influence still echoes in my thoughts and actions to this day.

His influence was good and it is long lasting.

Bernie was the father of my best friend from high school.
He was a fire man who worked for many years in the City of Toronto.

Kindness, empathy, reliability and honour were traits that could easily be associated with him.

And, he was old school. In every sense of the word.

If you promised to do something-- you had better do it. Especially if it involved Bernie.

As a kid I was rebellious, foolish, and somewhat of a clown... Hahaha.

I laugh now, but Bernie set me straight.

My father was a good man and provided great opportunities for me. Bernie was also a strong father figure to me.

I remember I had a committment to meet Bernie at a agreed upon time and location. My partying and wayward youth often got in the way of my promises.

I was 45 minutes late in meeting him.

As I said, Bernie was old school.

I can't exactly remember what it was that he said to me, or how he said it (I wouldn't be allowed to use the words he used on air without contravening the CRTC rules and regulations), but I will never forget the look he gave me.

It put the fear of the Almighty into the deepest part of me.

He taught me to be a man of my word. He very effectively conveyed how disrespectful it is to be late, unreliable, and flaky.

He made it clear, as an older lion would to a foolhardy cub, how important it is to be someone you can count on.

Every boy needs a strong male role model.

I will always be grateful for Bernie.

Sometime teachers come into our life and can leave a lasting legacy in what makes us what we are.

Often times, the priceless value of that influence isn't fully appreciated until the passage of time and experience creates the hindsight necessary to understand the motivation and love that prompted that influence.

Thanks Bernie.

The Value Of Your Word

Ugh.

Your word is your bond.

Not everybody buys into that.

Admittedly, I have broken promises on more occasions than I care to admit to in my albeit boring but storied past.

Thankfully I have made measurable strides to improve upon that.


But think about that. I mean really think about it.

When I make a promise, it is very important to me that I keep it.

It matters.

Why? Because the way I keep promises to others is a direct reflection of how I keep promises to myself.

I've learned a few things with this whole topic.

Here are three simple tools I use to add value to my word:

1. I don't make promises I can't keep.

2. I'm not afraid to say "NO" to any request that is not in line with what is important to me.

3. I hang out with friends and colleagues that equally value the importance of their word.


It works. Try it.

5 Traits Of A True Friend

Been thinking a lot lately about what aspects are evident with a true friend.

This is what comes to mind:

A true friend is

1. Honest with you- meaning they tell you what you need to hear as opposed to what you want to hear.
2. Reliable. A promise made is a promise kept. You can count on them.
3. Inspiring. They up your game to the next level. They bring out the best in you.
4. Someone who celebrates with you. When you win, they win and they share in your joys with encouragement.
5. Someone who keeps you accountable. Your values are reinforced and kept up to par with their association.

If any of those traits are missing, maybe the level of friendship is not as strong or as valuable as it could be.

What do you think?

Shogun vs Machida... WOW!

Watching the rematch between these two warriors was incredible.

WOW!

Like most other armchair pundits, I believe Shogun won the last encounter even though the decision was given to Machida.

When a second chance is provided at redemption, its a great idea to give it your best shot.

Indeed. That is what Shogun did.

His first round knockout of the Dragon was mindblowing.

It reminded me of the stunning knockout Antonio Tarver handed the then invincible Roy Jones in the second round of their rematch of a few years ago.

Like Jones, Machida was viewed to be invincible, unique, and impossible to beat.

But both are human. Both were beat.

Hats off to Rua who deserves to wear the Light Heavyweight Championship Belt.

WOW!

Well done!

Mayweather Prevails

Well, I called it soooo wrong.

I thought Sugar Shane would have been the first to beat Money Mayweather.

Floyd is just too good.

Mosely did cause some fireworks in the second round with a hard right-- but that's about it. Perhaps if Mayweather would have stood and fought instead of just boxing, it would have been a far more competitive fight.

Once Mayweather opted to use his far superior boxing skills, Mosely looked beaten for the remaining 10 rounds.

Floyd Mayweather is the best boxer pound for pound.

But what about Pacquiao?

After seeing last night's impeccable performance against Mosely, I think Mayweather will have no problems in defeating the amazing Fillipino boxer. And, I don't say that lightly.

Pacman is one of my favourite fighters.

I think that Mayweather is just that good.

Just that good to have little difficulty in handling the world class calibre of the Pacman.

We will just have to wait and see.

Frank Sinatra Didn't Tune Pianos

What?

That's a quote that a really good friend and mentor shared with me recently. I'm not sure who originally coined that phrase...

Here's the point though.

Ol' Blue Eyes was an absolute master. The Chairman of The Board. Simply the Best.

Man oh man... I absolutely love the man's body of work. There's just something about his music that is timeless and beautiful. He was a great artist.

I'm sure he could tune a piano if he had to. He had the God given talent and an ear for musical notes. He may have even liked to tune a piano every now and then- I don't know.

But, he didn't. Why?

He was a singer and a legendary performer.

As a singer and performer, he obviously LOVED his craft.

My friend was trying to get the point across that if you focus on your strengths, and more specifically, focusing on doing what you love, your passion, enthusiasm and committment can lead to greatness.

When you settle on doing what you like, rather than what you love, you diminish your value on many levels.

As a piano tuner you can make $25 an hour maybe.

As a truly great singer you can make $10 million dollars a year.

Think deeply about that. When you do what you love, the better part of you shines through.

I know it does for me.

When I do what I like rather than what I love, mediocrity rules supreme.

Ouch.

Just a thought. A pretty important thought at that too.

Men's best successes come after their disappointments.

That's a quote from Howard Ward Beecher. He was a 19th century clergy man and philosopher.

Of course, that quote is applicable to all people.

Both men and women can fit into that assertion.

Think about it deeply though.

When I look back on my life, I realize that any real progress happens consistently after disappointment.

Its kinda funny, but, the bigger the disappointment- the bigger the progress.

Why?

I'm not sure.

I think part of the answer lies in the fact that results don't lie.

When I am faced with a result that really sucks, and I am willing to act like a grown up (very rare hahaha), that means I will take responsibility for the results that are happening. And, if there are strong emotions attached to whatever result I am confronting, my motivation increases ten fold to make things right and to move on to better things.

I think that experiencing failure and disappointment provides a humilty that is probably lacking, and the accurate and real feedback that is necessary to succeed for the next attempt at success.

Very interesting quote. Very true.

Who You Hang Out With Has Huge Influence- On You!

It's kinda obvious. And its getting repetitive too. But it is vital-- I believe it is very true.

Who I hang out with, who I associate with, has huge influence on me.

It quietly steers the way I live, the way I think, my moods, and the way I behave.

What a no brainer. It only took me 40 plus years to figure that one out.

I have found consistently that if I hang out with physically fit people, I become fit.
When I hang out with happy folks, I am usually one happy son of a gun.
When I associate with financially successful people, my bad debt reduces.

Pretty effortlessly too. Why is that?

I'm not certain. It just is.

Sadly, the opposite is true too.

It doesn't take much to be miserable when I am around those who are miserable.

Take extra effort and use healthy discretion with who you choose to associate with.

It really matters.

Why Is Anderson Silva Such A Knob?

The answer is simple.

He showboated like a cocky fool and mailed in a mediocre performance at UFC 112. He had absolutely no consideration for the millions of folks (including myself) who spent their hard earned money to watch this pay per view nonsense.

This was an historic event for the UFC promotion as it was their first show in the middle east. The sport of MMA is growing into a world wide phenomenom and UFC president Dana White and Zuffa went to great lengths to put on this show for all the world to see. The location they set up in Abu Dhabi is incredibly breathtaking.

Why would Anderson Silva pull such a stunt? Arrogance? Stupidity?

It makes absolutley no sense.

He is the most freakishly talented fighter in the world of MMA. Mr. Silva is the best. Period.

It (as Joe Rogan has often said) appears as though Anderson is "operating in another dimension-its like he's in The Matrix".

This event was meant to be a set up and pre cursor for Anderson Silva to meet Canadian Georges St. Pierre in the welterweight division. Dana White has made it clear that Anderson Silva doesn't deserve that opportunity.

Dana is right.

Nobody and I mean nobody likes a showboat.

What a knob.

186 lbs and counting! Wooohooo!

That's 30lbs. 30 lbs of unhealthy flab. Gone.

It feels good.

Since making a public committment back in February, I have slowly and methodically lost the weight.

Very Simply Too.

More water rich foods. More physical activity.

That's it.

Most importantly, I have made a committment to mimic and model those folks I know who are physically fit and remain at their ideal weight.

No diets. Barf.

I firmly believe that if there is anything you want in life, just find a mentor or role model that is achieving those goals and behave as they do. Think as they do.

You will likely get what they get. You will likely have what they have.

Pretty cool.

Celebrity Rehab...Puhleeeeeeeze!

I don't get it.

I would like to think that Dr. Drew means well.

There's no doubt that he speaks with authority and comes across as having extensive experience in treating individuals with health issues related to addiction.

But something doesn't seem right.

The challenge with this programme is that it is exploitive in its very nature.

Its like watching a train wreck.

Celebrities who have achieved measurable success in the past are paraded across the small screen as they attempt to get their wrecked and messed up affairs in order (for millions of people to see too).

It leaves little dignity to those celebs who sign up for this circus.

And, I'm sure there is little sympathy among many viewers who witness individuals who have had it all- money, health, fame, and successful careers- flush it all down the toilet.

I suspect that if the participants were serious about getting things in order, they would do so privately and with conviction. Not by showcasing their self imposed challenges on broadcast television.

Maybe Dr. Drew's intentions are sincere. I can't quite place my finger on it, but something is amiss.

In any case, its not pleasant to look upon.

Ratings would suggest the opposite is true.

My guess is that the success rate for those participants might be close to zero.

It makes for dramatic tv though. Don't it?

Jesse James...Dude, What Were You Thinking?

Man oh man.

I just wanna say a couple of things.

And by the way, I'm not jumping on the band wagon and kicking a man while he's down.

We are all human. We all have the potential to make foolish and tragic blunders. We are all fallible in one respect or another.

Lord knows I've done more than my share of really stupid things in the last 40 plus years.

But Jesse, what were you thinking?

I mean c'mon... It's Sandra freakin Bullock!

Dude. Really?

I think the perfect metaphor is this:

It is just like someone getting a cheap cheezeburger at the local greasy spoon, while having filet mignon prepared by a world class gourmet chef waiting at home.

Now there is nothing wrong with cheezeburgers. I understand the appeal. Sometimes it can really hit the spot. If you know what I mean.

But it doesnt make any sense if you got the filet mignon waiting at home. No sense at all.

It appears that Sandra more than went to bat for you in many instances. She is adorable, grounded, and a true gem. I can't imagine her thoughts right now.

I don't think this situation is fixable.

Ouch.

190 lbs. Wow! That's 26 lbs and counting!

I am still making positive progress.

About seven weeks ago, I made a firm decision to drop the excess weight I had put on over the last year.

Man I really packed it on with our vacation this Christmas.

I ballooned up to a whopping 216 lbs.

As I have said countless times, every pound was well earned as I practically ate every thing in sight. Every bite was pure bliss.

But that comes with a price.

Shortness of breath, lethargy, not feeling the greatest, tight clothing that used to be loose etc.

Here's how I have lost the weight:

Not by dieting, not by working out like a speed freak, and not by starving myself.

No way.

I have just modeled and mimicked those I know who are at their ideal weight, and have opted to eat more water rich foods (such as more fruits and vegetables).

The results are speaking for themselves.

Its funny and interesting. When you are mentored by someone who is creating the specific results you want in your life, the results come "automagically" as my mentor puts it.

Thinking deeply about this I realize that there is a principle at work.

The tribe you run with largely influences the person you become.

I have found that when I associate with happy people I become happy.

When I associate with successful folks, some of that success rubs off on me.

Wow. What a concept.

The Art of Delegation

If you are a rugged individualist, a control freak, or even an annoying micro manager-- good luck.

You're gonna need it.

How do I know that?

Sigh.

Let's just say that I do.

I am going through the growing pains of coming to terms with seeing the true value in effective delegation.

It is the better choice 'cause I can't do everything.

As a matter of fact, if I am completely candid, there are only a few select things I can do exceptionally well.

It is better to free up my time and focus on what I am good at.

I have a few mentors that have influenced me in my life. Recently one of them said:

"I used to think 'How can I do this?', now I think 'Who is gonna do it?'".

That's a major paradigm shift for me.

If you think about it deeply though, it is clear that highly successful individuals are masterful delegators.


Makes sense.

Still Making Progress

Weighing in at 194 lbs.

Wow.

Feeling pretty good. Lifestyle choices, healthier living, and an active lifestyle are truly great things.

As I mentioned in previous posts, I have dropped weight at a healthy pace. A little over a month ago, I was sporting a hefty 216lbs on the weigh scale.

Thats 22 pounds lost in a little over 5 weeks.

How am I doing it?

Light calisthenics, lotsa walking, and behaving like a fit person.

No diets. They don't work.

Simple choices like eating whole grain foods and water rich foods rather than highly processed foods. It's a life style.

As an example, here is what I eat in a typical day:

Breakfast:

2-3 scrambled eggs,
coffee, fruit, and a whole grain slice of bread.

Snacks: Fruit or Vegetable. Eat till satisfied.

Lunch:

Greek Salad with Chicken breast, Soup, Fruit.

Snacks: Fruit or Vegetable. Eat till satisfied.

Dinner:

Roasted Chicken breast, vegetable, maybe a bean salad.

Snacks: Fruit or Vegetable. Eat till satisfied.

Oh and at least three bottles of water throughout the day.

It's working.

I will keep you posted.

W Network Expert

My wife entered my profile in to the W Network Expert Search contest.

Kind woman.

Anyways, suprisingly enough, I made the initial cut.

Check it out. Let me know what you think:

http://experts.wnetwork.com/Entries/Details.aspx?ID=462&Search=LC0xLG1vc3QgcmVjZW50LDY=

197 lbs!!! Very Nice...

Making Progress.

Wooohoooo!

I started out at 216 lbs. I am now at 197 lbs.

Its been about a month.

How does that happen?

Like I said earlier, not by dieting (I think that's extremely unhealthy), nor by working out like crazy (gradual physical activity within moderation is preferable), but by mentoring physically fit people that I know.

What does that mean?

I try to behave exactly the same way a physically fit person behaves.

A healthy lifestyle is encouraged by making better choices that are in line with the way a fit person behaves.

Instead of opting for the junk food and highly processed white flour food products, choose water rich foods instead.

I am by confession, an emotional eater. LOL.

But it's true.

Hiding out in a bag of chips cause I feel down and out can be gratifying in the moment, but the consequenses are heavy. No pun intended.

Ever tried emotionally eating an apple? I don't know why, but no matter how hungry I am, I can't eat more than one apple in a sitting. It's as though it's got a built in gage to prevent me from over indulging.

I can emotionally eat 3 bags of chips and not even bat an eye.

Little choices such as these make a world of difference.

I will keep you posted.

Learning From Past Mistakes

I'm not certain what prompts these episodes, but every now and then I find myself to be in a reflective mood.

It can go one of two ways.

Either I can morbidly re-live past failings and set backs, or I can choose to learn to do better.

Choosing the latter is better.

The challenge is this then: Acting like a grown up.

Hahaha.

Not easy for the immortal 17 year old that I am.

Seriously though, choosing the latter means I take responsibility for all that I experience and create. That is when something interesting happens.

I am no longer a victim to the past. I can be proactive.

Wow. What a concept.

By dropping the word blame from my vocabulary, by owning my role in things, and by taking the responsibility, I can evolve. I don't have to be stuck.

And, it is in those moments that opportunity presents itself where I can improve, if I choose to.

By stretching myself ,trying out new things, and leaving my comfort zone, I become better.

That tends to happen only if I am not weighed down with the past.

Live and learn.

Staying On Track With Accountabiliy re: Healthy Weight Loss

Another update.

Yup.

I had to go and keep myself accountable... (sigh)...Didn't I?

Well if I can stop whining like a little school girl for just a few moments, I am glad to report that I am still on track with dropping those excess pounds of flab.

I am not depriving myself nor dieting cause that's not effective or healthy in my opinion.

I am simply opting for more water rich foods such as fruits, vegetables, and other healthier alternatives.

Admittedly, I'm starting to feel pretty good.

Every morning I am going for a brisk walk for about a mile and a half and doing some light calisthenics too with lots of stretching.

It's working.

My clothes are a little less tight and I feel lighter.
I will be weighing in with my current weight at the end of the month to gage my progress.

Just modelling the behaviours of people I know that are physically fit and healthy has had tremendous impact in weight loss.

I will keep you posted.

Healthier Choices, Physical Fitness and Weight Loss.

I am happy to report that things are going well.

I have started to exercise again and have made healthier choices with my food intake.

As I mentioned in a previous post, 216lbs is waaaaay too heavy for my frame.

Here's a neat little visualization technique that I have been using that has been effective in keeping me on track.

Every morning as I begin my exercise routine (and by the way-nothing too intense just yet as I am just starting out again--I will work up to a higher intensity as I make progress) I do this:

Imagine someone you know who is physically fit (and healthy) that is in the workout room with you. And, imagine that they are urging you on with positive encouragement and support.

It can be a famous athlete or a friend... whoever you want it to be.

Visualize them saying things to push you further (without hurting yourself of course) in a clear and supportive tone.

If you are going for a jog for instance, visualize them jogging in front of you and turning around to face you and beckon you further.

It works.

With respect to my food intake I use a similar technique. I imagine that same healthy and fit individual eating with me (I know it sounds nuts but it works) and I find I am making healthier choices.

For example, instead of snacking on highly processed fat rich foods, I opt instead for water rich foods such as an apple or a vegetable. I am becoming conscious of the fact that if I am putting the effort to get back into shape, I should be equally as diligent in what I am eating.

But not dieting. Diets don't work.
After dieting, it is highly likely that the progress I make is reversed when I return to my old ways.

Instead, a healthier lifestyle works.

I will keep you posted.

Hey...That's My Wife!

WTF...

I am really curious if any other guy has experienced this.

Yesterday, my wife and I went to our Godson's birthday party. There were alot of people there, including many parents and kids etc...

Anyways, we were early (one of my obsessions- punctuality) and got there to help set up. We arrived in the party room and started to assist with the tables and chairs etc. More and more people started to arrive and I went outside to get more items from my truck.

When I came back in to the room, I noticed this woman from behind.

Wow.

She looked fine. I mean really fine. Gentlemen, you know what I mean.

Now, I'm not one for having a wondering eye. But then again, I'm married--not blind.

I didn't remember seeing this woman walk in to the party room. She was helping out with the set up for the party. I thought I would walk up a little closer and get a better look. I walked around to the other side of the table. Lo and behold it was my wife!

Hahaha...

She was wearing a new pair of designer jeans with an equally fashionable collared shirt.

It was hot.

It was really amusing, and confusing!

How come I didn't notice earlier in the morning?

Must be because I'm a guy... Ask any wife or girlfriend. She would probably concur. We don't listen, and we don't notice things.

It must be in our evolutionary make up.

Anyways, this experience prompted a moral dilemma:

Am I being unfaithful by checking out an incredibly attractive woman from behind with keen interest only to find out it is actually my wife that has grabbed my attention?

Or am I simply confirming my heartfelt attraction with my subconscious by noticing her with the intensity of a man who even unknowingly is drawn to his beautiful wife's presence?

Am I the only dude who has experienced this?

Somehow, I doubt it.

Weight Loss, Accountability, and Goals.

Well, its time to commit.

I am publicly committing to getting back in shape. This time I mean business.

When I came back from my trip through Europe this past January, I was made painfully aware of the consequences of thoroughly enjoying every morsel of food (and I do mean "every"!).

That frigging digital weighing scale couldn't lie to me-- even just once.

216 lbs.

That aint much if say... you are 6' 10".

Its pretty hefty for a guy like me who stands exactly a foot shorter. Very hefty.

And by the way, don't be deceived by my profile picture, that photo was taken in 2008, when I was regularly working out on an ongoing basis... I weighed about 168lbs there.

But back to the present. What was my moment of clarity? A visit to the chiropractor.
I have had muscle spasms and strains in my lower back. Although I have no qualms of acknowledging that at times I am a world class wuss, it was a painful problem. My chiropractor was honest with me.

"Ron, I see this problem regularly in pregnant women. You're getting fat. It's the root of the issue."

He wasn't being mean, or hurtful, just honest. In a Simon Cowell sorta way. The truth will set you free.

Recognizing the problem is paramount and then success in addressing it is that much nearer. The key to success is found in the simplicity of stating a goal that is clear, and stating one that will also undoubtedly keep you accountable. (i.e. announcing it on a blog that is accessible by countless numbers).

So here is the plan and I will give an update on an ongoing basis. It's really quite simple:

I am going to model those people I know who are physically fit, healthy, and happy and most importantly those that remain physically fit and healthy. Gonna use them as a mentor-like guide.

The goal is to get down to a healthy 170 lbs by June 1st of this year.

Simple.

I'm not gonna starve myself cause I think thats foolish and dangerous.
I'm not gonna go on some new fad diet that causes me to have bitter hatred towards a can of tuna.
I'm not gonna work out like some speed freak on an unbridled binge.

I'm gonna make real healthy changes and behave like a fit person. Yup. That's it.

When I am lured by that luscious piece of rich dark chocolate, or seduced by that provocative and juicy cheeseburger, I will attempt to the best of my ability to behave like a fit person would.

In other words, I refuse to behave like a fat guy.

No offense to fat guys.

I am currently a fat guy and in many respects have enjoyed the experience immensely.
Both ways of being offer their own unique set of pleasures.

I'm just making choices and changes to live as a fit guy.

I will keep you posted.

Randy Couture Is My Hero. UFC 109

Gotta love Randy.

Dude is 45 years old and yet he still retains world class skills as he continues to compete among the elite in the sport.

A genuine class act and a thorough gentleman.

He is my hero and is easily someone to look up to for inspiration.

He was succesful in the Octogan this past weekend, defeating Mark Coleman via rear naked choke in round 2 in their light heavyweight match up.

As I endeavour to get back into shape this year, I am inclined to look for guidance from The Natural...

I came across an interesting article on extremesports.com which provided 10 Hints for training from Randy:

Randy's Top 10 Training Hints

1. Use a calendar to periodize your training, include your peaking phases for competitions or goal deadlines.
2. “The human body is amazing.” It will adapt to a workload in 8 to 10 weeks. Use that as a guide to adjust training and keep your training moving forward.
3. Keep a training log: include workouts, diet, sleep, and anything else pertinent to your training.
4. Set daily, weekly, monthly and yearly goals. Write them down and share them with someone close to you.
5. After a competition (win or lose), or at a goal deadline (accomplished or not) evaluate your program and routine. Keep what works, eliminate what didn’t, and move forward.
6. Establish a warm up “ritual”. Think of your best performance, what did you do to warm up? Repeat that! It’s a living, evolving thing. Make changes accordingly until you can put yourself in the “zone” every time.
7. “Iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” Find workout and drilling partners that challenge you or you’ll never improve your game!
8. Proper rest is just as important as time spent training hard. Listen to your body and let it recover.
9. Over-training is more a state of mind rather than [of] body. Altering your routine to keep it fresh helps avoid plateaus and stagnation.
10. Strive to get 1% better each day. It doesn’t sound like much, but adds up in a hurry!

Great Advice. Great Man.

Faux Finishing and Specialty Painting Effects

Here's a sample of some of the stuff I've doing for almost 20 years... It looks more fun to watch someone else do it... hahahaha

Specialty painting and faux finishing have been around for centuries. It is a practical way to create the look of say marble, granite, or whatever other precious commodity you wish to have in your home --without having to bring it there physically.

Check it out:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ancllmUBIQg&feature=channel

Corral De La Moreria- Blanca Del Rey

My wife and I saw the real deal in Spain.

Flamenco-- As it is meant to be.

In a tavern located in the heart of Madrid there is an establishment called Corral De La Moreria . The ambiance, food, staff, and vibe is perfect. No exaggeration. It has been frequented by many celebrities and public figures over the last 50 odd years. Really great place and I whole heartedly recommend it.

I have seen Flamenco shows here in Toronto but nothing as amazing as this.

The headliner was world renowned Blanca del Rey. She was born in Cordoba, Andalusia, Spain in 1946.

Here's the thing that impacted me. Her performance was more than I expected. With every gesture and movement the audience was made to feel the music come alive.

That sounds ridiculous. But its true.

Every joy, every sorrow, every challenge and heartache, and every memory of every lover or foe she ever had was conveyed very strongly and forcefully with her flamenco movements.

I have never seen anything like that. I have never felt anything like that. Certainly not from watching any dance performance.

It was unforgettable.

In previous performances I have been accustomed to seeing "twenty something" beautiful young women move the strains of classical Spanish guitar chops. As a guy I find it relatively easy to dig that sort of thing.

Blanca del Rey brought something more.

The Importance Of A Mentor

Catchy title.

As of late I find myself to be in a reflective mood more often than usual.

Specifically, I've been thinking about how important it is to have a mentor. Regardless of whatever stage you are in your life.

Whether it is for your career, or your personal life-- having a guiding role model is crucial to your success.

How do I know that?

Through vivid and unforgettable experiences I have come to believe that if I am my only resource for unchartered terrority, I am likely in danger of making needless and foolish choices. (Yup. Been there. Done that.) Choices that could be avoided with wise counsel from someone who has been in the exact same situation. Someone who has been in the same position and who has also transcended that difficulty.

The best example to clearly illustrate this is the prize fighter.

Ultimately, he (or these days "she" too) has to enter the ring alone.

However, with a wise and experienced trainer (mentor) in the fighter's corner, there is a distinct advantage.

The prize fighter has the power of receiving significant insights, advice, and guidance that is unique AND practical from the trainer.

That is why even those athletes that are within the elite of their particular sport, those atheltes who are earning millions of dollars, utilize a trainer (mentor).

Can you imagine how ridiculous it would be for one of the Klitschko brothers to enter the ring for a heavyweight championship match sans a trainer? They would likely lose.

Here's the really interesting part though. A fighter like one of the Klitschko brothers has the talent, know how, and God given talent to win most bouts. Yet it is unthinkable to enter the arena without their trainer.

It seems to me to be a principle linked to success. Even if your not the heavyweight champ.

The other thing I realize is that your mentor is not going to do the work for you.
The prize fighter does his own pushups. His own road work. His own sparring. Not the trainer.

And, the trainer won't waste one second of his or her time if you are not committed and dedicated.

Simple.

True.

Museo De Prado

Wow. That's all I can say.

My wife and I just had the good fortune to visit Madrid Spain. And, of course, I had to visit the galleries... Specifically Prado.

Wow.

To see first hand with our own eyes the works of artists such as Titian, Reubens, and Carravaggio was an awe inspiring experence. Not to mention the many sculptures and architectural wonders that were found throughout the building.

Many of the works are familiar to me from books and internet images but to see it in person is entirely something else.

I can just imagine the artist working away at the canvas and doing his or her best to convey a sense of feeling or emotion...

Unfortunately, no photographs or videos are allowed within the museum for obvious security reasons. In a way that probably enhances the experience. We get to see the images and remember them rather in our mind than with the assistance of technology. Kinda like how they were supposed to be viewed.

Highly recommended.